Biting My Tongue!

One of the very first things we were told in foster care training was "you cannot love them too much, hold them too much, or spoil them. They have come from nothing. There's a reason they are in care. Most likely it's neglect or abuse! Therefore I don't like it when people tell me "you're going to spoil him" First of all, he's 3 months old. What do you suggest? Letting him scream? Second of all, who knows if this child was held at all. His case is so scary and sad. I'll hold him for as long as he wants to be held thankyouverymuch. Now, none of this rant is directed at you.

It's directed at a PROFESSIONAL! Because of M's situation he has bi-monthly evaluations. The professional came over and tsked tsked me because the 9 week old didn't like tummy time. None of children, birth or foster, have liked tummy time. They all have learned to crawl, sit, and walk just fine. She picked up my son as said to him "You don't need to be held all the time, mister." Excuse me! I nearly jerked him out of her arms! She said this because he fussed after a few minutes of tummy time! He's now 13 weeks old and enjoying his belly time like a champ! He holds his head just fine and follows objects and laughs and giggles! M has a monthly social worker visit today and I'm asking for a new professional or to stop the evaluations all together. I know he's fine and 3 different doctors have told me he's fine and developing perfectly. So Ms. Professional, I'll hold him with all my heart!